How I Crushed Self-Doubt to be the Best Me
I've come to realize that one of the most limiting things a person can experience in this life is self-doubt. It has the ability to keep you feeling locked away in a prison of your own insecurities. It can suffocate your freedom to explore and engage in new opportunities and adventures, and it may hold you back from ever achieving the very things that you really want. So by its very nature, doubt itself is negative. It is something that denounces and turns down any positive thought or action-inspiring suggestion.
I know of people who have literally given up on wanting anything at all, due to having such a high level of self-doubt! Having allowed their insecurities to escalate to such a point, over the course of their life, they eventually gave up on even considering that they had any level of freedom at all, regarding their own choices. Well, I've decided that I was not going to be that person, forever closed off and afraid of exploring new aspirations. I had too much to lose…..A mindset shift was in order!
Overbearing Doubt
For as long as I can recall, I’ve always had the desire to be my own boss and, or run my own company. I’ve imagined so many scenarios where I was thriving at what I was doing as a business owner, but something would always happen that caused me to be doubtful of my abilities. To be sure I wasn’t lacking in knowledge, I made sure I was always learning something new that will benefit me in some way. One should never quit learning new things! For the most part, I even had the loving support of those that mattered. But the monster doubt, would somehow manage to overwhelm me and weaken my resolve to continue, sometimes even stopping me midway.
This was not a pattern I wanted to continue, so in order to gain command of my self-limiting doubts, I found myself in a position where I had no choice but to face them head on and plow straight through. Although positivity and self-talk is encouraging it often takes more than words to push through such serious limitations. I had to become determined to take serious action, without looking back. YES, I made up my mind to Act my way out! And it just so happens, that it proved to be easier, to act my way into a new way of thinking, than it was to think my way into a new way of acting.
Lessons learned
What I learned along the way is that Action is usually a better means to accomplishing success than self-talking is. Knowing this, we can implement strategies to conquer and eventually destroy specific doubts.
How? With a shift in focus, whatever work is needed, and the right amount of determination there is something that we can do to conquer this. And even if you fail at first, action in itself is motivating, and it encourages us to try again; with every try, the chances of success increases and this refocuses our thoughts in a more positive direction. So if we focus on the negatives or failures we’ve experienced, rather than on the positives or successes we’ve accomplished, our actions and results will be different.
*Hooray for small Wins
Yes, small wins are motivating because when you see real change and progress being made, these builds momentum. Remember each success is proof that what was previously doubted, is really a possibility. And those little changes can add up faster that you expect…similar to that old saying about “eating an elephant one bite at a time”. Realizing that it’s the past thinking and self-doubt that created “the elephant” in the first place, now it’s going to take a new series of small actions to climb out of that limiting pit. So each tiny win acts as proof and creates a case for the opposite of self-doubt and insecurity.
So although I’m not, by any means, new to Network Marketing, I am somewhat fresh in the field of Online Marketing. http://bit.ly/ybg-NLS-cometry4free However, with every new task I take on, I learn different skillets that make me a better marketer and entrepreneur in general, whether I earned big bucks or not. I know that there may be hundreds or more individuals out there, with similar dreams but have doubts holding them back…all wanting to be better at succeeding, better at conquering self-doubt. I know that with my education, background, knowledge and experience, along with my ongoing self-education, what I have to share can be of great value to someone, and I likewise will continue to gain by helping others.
In conclusions, I can say that I’m ultimately proving the self-doubting limitation wrong, and guiding my mind in a newer and more positive way of thinking and approaching life in general. Only by doing this can I be the BEST ME that I know how to BE!
Leana Hood/YannaB
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